We reach out to the phone these days each time we feel “threatened”; we want desperately to let off steam; to offload; to find a comrade to believe in our version of events; to literally validate that how we feel is indeed valid. That’s why talking to a friend relieves us. On a bigger scale, it means we form little communities societies clans that will have a common purpose or goal. Or rather, they will share the same vibrational frequency.
Why do we feel so good when we “gossip”? Because, the gossip serves to increase the feeling of safety within, and provides a temporary release of a stress response that was triggered.
Except what is really happening is, that we remain fixed in the same mindset and so no real shifts or even release happens. Just a temporary band aid. A real comrade will question the trigger; those who love you when that is not based on a transaction or a feel good feeling, will be the first ones to call you out on your shit. Those friends that will sit and talk to you keeping you in the same mindset, are in fact relishing in feeling needed, because otherwise, without this sort of gossip, their lives are empty and lost for real purpose.
Each time you feel you want to offload, try instead to feel that discomfort, and use it as a golden reminder that there is something inside of you that is screaming for attention. Perhaps a lack of self love.
Real transformation is liberating. It is authentic. It is here for everyone one of us. If only, we can let go of the coping mechanisms, and all the little comforts we have that have given the mind such a stronghold.
Just imagine what you can do when you master yourself and are a slave no more to your mind, the games? You can literally fly with unbound wings. You don’t feel threatened when another bird soars higher because you are in love, yes, in love with love, and life just flows.
Give up the quick fix, the band aid, and take the less travelled road into the zone outside of the most familiar.
Blessings
Mama Kee x