It is almost becoming a fact of life now to be anything but your authentic self; not for want but for fear of being that. 

We simply cannot fathom the courage to be us and being true to us is a far cry. 

But why? 

Fear of abandonment rejection non acceptance and being alone.

We are complex.

We are designed to become aware at some point of another. It won’t be today if you don’t feel drawn to being that. But feel it you will because life and the human are cyclic and conical. 

What happens when we become aware? We become aware. We enrich our life experiences. We become full. We feel full. But we also feel the void and the emptiness. And that is the void which says we can create what next. Our awareness tells us where we are in how we express the Self and our Will to create. Are we using our Will? Is this aligned with a purpose? 

As the consciousness expands, we begin the process of integration healing and synthesis. This will bring a “new” you; in fact it’s just you with a “real” awareness of you. There is no facade no pretence just you being you. 

Anything before this will have been a you that might have come to rely on someone outside of you to fulfil those parts of you that you weren’t aware of. It’s like you were a jigsaw puzzle and you found someone on the outside that matched what would have been your puzzle’s missing parts. Once you have discovered that those parts are self contained, what happens to this someone? You lose your dependency and because of this you begin to see them as they are. Quite possibly the them without the parts of their puzzle put together as they too will more than likely have had to depend on you to complete them. 

We are complete.

We don’t need others to complete us. It is the finding of us and embracing our wholeness in which lay the realisation: I Am. I am the whole of me, I am the whole. 

We can pretend to be independent and self willed in relationships as long as the codependency is not threatened. When ones independence starts to emerge it might irritate the codependent. This rocks the boat. As long as we are in relationships based on fulfilling our needs, we are in codependency. 

We can only ever be in a relationship with our self which then extends to all those around us and to romantic partners. It is our common ideals and ideas about life then bring us together. We can breathe within the relationship. 

We can be.