• To love thyself is to love 
• To love another is to share the love that you are 
• When your pot of love is full you have space to share 
• Being in your love essence, you will already have healthy boundaries that are innate and not really in your conscious awareness as these are ethereal 
• You will therefore only attract what you are embodying – your totality of self – love 

The way we know how to love comes from a past paradigm, looking for our needs to be met, our pots to be filled, our back to be covered, and for that someone to “get us”. We want to feel loved secure and stable. We want assurance. We want to feel encompassed and enthralled. Have you noticed just how much “wanting” and “needing” there is in the sort of love we hold to be either self love or love we want for our self from another or love we have to give to another. 

If the love above fails to meet our needs wants desires and expectations of what love looks like then we:

Walk away from loved ones

Look elsewhere for love 

Transact in love 

Trade in love 

Feel a need for space a lot 

Feel overwhelmed a lot 

Feel taken for granted 

Feel taken advantage of 

Feel too open too loving 

Feel the need to protect yourself 

When we cut people out what we are cutting out is not the other person but the cord between us and us. We are in total denial of any primal exploration into why we cut off. After all isn’t that all so childish?

The root of the whole imbalance comes not from how people have responded to the love that you were and have always so willingly shared with an unrivalled ppe ended understanding of others. No. It comes from using an out of date model of love. Your first example of love comes from how that was shown to you in your own infancy, childhood, adolescence and teenage years. Your timelines will show you the root of the model of love you have. 

Apart from your timeline, there is the Self in us that is the witness of us. If you like, it is our consciousness. This will guide us into the true essence of what love is and you will find that love has always been who you are at your core. Yep. Now, when we are love, we don’t need to get that love right? On the other hand we simply share it. 

It is when we are not engaged in our present moment that we are not in our state of love. 

How does one start to self love right now? 

Engaged presence in the present will create in you an awareness of the love you hold in you and in turn share with others around you. 

What keeps us from engaging in our present is our idea of the past and not the past literally. Because the past is past. What remains is an imprint. This imprint is bent on ruining our present. We are either planning the future or ruminating over what happened.

Look around you right now. What do you see. Start with your own body. Appreciate each part. Look at your home your best your family members. Soften your gaze and watch that love inside you start to bubble out creating little magical orbs of light. 

Your first step to Self love is to step into the shoes of your NOW. Fall in love with your life as your ideal right NOW. All of what you want need desire fall away on the NOW. And that need for self love crumbles as you realise the love within. What you are looking for is a validation of self rather than self love. This is the missing part, one you may not have received enough of as a child. 

Our parents are generally well meaning. But they were of the age of Pisces, and we are the remains of that age, in us we have legacies of self deprecating belief systems that hinder our infinity to come into full light. 

Let’s start today by taking that bold step back into our timelines. There is no judgement of who did what. You are simply creating a version of you that is yours without anyone else’s crap in it. 

Sending you love from my heart to yours.