Ha ha ha! Seriously? Do I really need you to make me feel a certain way about who I am what I am and what I even amount to? Since when? Do we need our jobs to define our self worth so much so that without them our life seems without purpose and we literally fall apart? How much of what we do is who we are and a gauge of what we amount to? Am I worth according to what I do? So, I might be overly helpful, always waiting for the next way of filling my already full to brim diary, is that because of some innate altruism or a need to be needed?
As soon as our moods start changing, our whole outlook about how esteemed we feel, we know that we live and thrive on validation received outside of ourselves, there is a zero self tolerance and self acceptance policy in ourselves if it doesn’t come with a following! And we see all else pretty much through the same lens too, we gauche their worth with what they do, who their friends are, what their net financial worth is, and on the other end of the continuum which spiritual cult they belong to.
We say cult because any teaching that gives us a sense of entitlement, a feeling of superiority or being the “chosen ones” seeks to covertly divide as opposed to unite and move towards a unified consciousness, cannot be a community with a purpose for the good of others as it then becomes one only for the benefit of those that have created it. A business, a cult. And those of us that buy into this are lacking a key ingredient in our lives – love. Self love, self acceptance, self awareness and above all the self reverence that is needed independent of one another but borne within. We just know we are valid as we are, when we don’t, we crave connection, we are driven towards cults and more in the name of causes purposes and more that feed to our need for direction. Just as we were directed in childhood and then given love when we were “good”. That’s how we are wired and so again and again we look for that same validation.
Except of course instead of being validated we keep going round in loops. Until you realise yourself that you hold the key to your own freedom.
Pick up that key today, don’t wait, take your life back, and be you.
Blessings
Mama Kee x