In our wholeness there really is no place for any holes in us. So we don’t go looking for any fillers whether that be a job a friend a foe a lover a class a God or whatever. Instead, what we have is a life full of growth potential and possibilities, an empty canvas for us to etch our hearts desires that if unfulfilled will not make us flinch at all and cling onto like toddlers do when their needs are not being met. We learn to let go because our hearts inner desires have already been fulfilled, we start from a place of fullness.
What comes to us will be attuned to our frequency. When we don’t like what came, it is most likely because of a missing awareness in action. We don’t know our own frequency, and so when our expectations fail to be met, instead of asking the question, what in me attracts this experience and what is it leading towards in me that needs to return to wholeness, we tend to place the onus on the external experience.
There are only two types of experience – one that matches your frequency to return you to wholeness and one that matches your frequency to expand your wholeness into oneness through integration. An example of both is in the first instance a couple are engaged, they plan to spend their lives together. They have what looks like a very normal partnership. Look deeper and you might find that one is feeding the others unmet need and the coupling is rife with undertones of codependency. But they are happy with this and will probably never to seek to delve deeper into their relationship dynamics unless something turned them inward such as a loss or an indiscretion. If it is in their stars, shall we say, to seek out any hindrances to claiming their wholeness, such an event will be their calling card. And this very card is what will help either or both take the train into their wholeness. The couple whose frequency meets to expand their wholeness will have a bond based on a healthy interdependence without either feeling the need to own one another to gain a sense of safety. They are already safe within themselves and there will be an underlying transparency between them, an authentic wholeness that one would experience in their company.
We all attract the frequency at which we are stationed. We can journey into our frequencies if that’s in our blueprint to do. Even if it’s not, we can still create a paradigm by association. For example through an influence of another person at a different frequency to yours. You might be attracted to one another yet you are polarised. Here the lesson would be to attune to a third frequency you can create together and what determines this is your unique purpose in your lives. Perhaps you chose to create a third energy together to assist those aspiring to attune to that frequency.
Returning to our whole sense of self is not the end. We integrate that sense into oneness so that we create a sense of universal connectivity. The loneliness must be embraced for wholeness to arrive and then the connectivity simply slots in.
Most of us are stuck in a state of neediness disguised as ambition life purpose desires and more. To know what’s what, you need to be able to call your own shit out. Knowing when you are off your own radar. This is something only you can do for you. There is really no need to blame shame or even name in order to heal. If anything doing so delays any real changes to take effect because we have simply replaced an unmet need with a an excuse to hold onto a sense of entitlement.
So many are still harbouring inner child wounds for example. Why? Bearing any resentment towards any wrong doers only keeps us fixed in one frequency even if your thoughts might change on the surface. Let it go and cultivate the courage to live as though you had no wounds at all. If it means faking it to make it then do that, because the mind can’t tell the difference.
Otherwise, know what is coming from a place in you that is needy, like holding onto a crush when you know you don’t need to because there is more than one candy shop (think toddler); similarly there is a whole lot of world out there, stop hoarding and start living!!!!
What’s your frequency?